Last week I found myself writing a lot on online forums. This was one of those posts.
I’m seeing a common thread of guilt in posts this morning. So I’m going to address this.
I think we’re confusing guilt with shame based off of rules and ideas we think we are supposed to be following.
Shame is the feeling of ‘I’ve been caught’, or ‘I need to change to make it better’. Sometimes we don’t realize it’s shame. We have to stop and think ‘I feel uptight and feel physically _____ whenever he/she says ___ or does ____. I wonder why?’
Example: Last week my boss was really quiet one morning and I found myself wanting to hide and wondering what I had done wrong. That’s shame. I had done nothing but was reminded of my relationship with my dad as a child. It was not about my boss – but about my past.
Something else I’m seeing is what we think God wants us to do. Whether it’s try harder, believe in Him, trust Him, or any other ideas of God.
There is only one way to address any of this and that is to stop and see you as God see’s you. YOU ARE BELOVED!! Beloved. Loved. Adored. Precious. God’s Son. God’s Daughter. You belong!! You can feel safe in knowing that YOU are GOD’S!
I’m reading posts this morning feeling my heart go out to each of you because I want you to see yourselves as God see’s you. You are all so beautiful. And I’m crying as I write this because I don’t know how to reach through the internet and give each of you a hug. I wish I could visit each of you and remind you Whose you are.