My Parents

Sometimes I get questions about my parents. Mostly what they think and how they treat me now.

I realize that, based on what I’ve written, it may come across that I’ve cut them off or that we have no relationship.

My parents are amazing people. They are loving and supporting of me.

 

I call my parents several times a week and we talk about my current life. I appreciate their input and ask for their advice. Getting to this place hasn’t been easy or fun. I’ve had difficult conversations with them. But it’s been worth it. The important relationships are worth the difficult conversations.

Recently my family started a group text with all my siblings and parents and we were texting fun pictures and comments. My sister said it best ‘I never thought we’d do this’. Me either.

The progress my family has made has been incredible. I still have 2nd parents (everyone should!) but my parents are my parents. I love them. I value them and their opinion.

 

How did I get here? What were the changes that led to this different and new relationship?

There isn’t an easy answer. My own path of healing has been a huge part of the change. Also the phrase ‘my childhood was needed for the life I have now’ has been important for me to settle into and accept and believe and receive. I’m starting to see the wisdom in those words. But believing them means not blaming and throwing my hurt and pain at my parents. It means carefully working through the memories and pain to uncover the truth of who I am.

I can’t say ‘I can’t ____ because my parents’ or ‘well it’s because my parents…..’ or  any other phrase the puts the blame on someone else.
Because my past, my childhood, is a gift if I decide to accept it as such.
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About Michelle

I'm Michelle. I'm an extrovert city girl who grew up in the beautiful farm country of the East Coast and moved to Houston Texas 6 years ago. Stepping out, being known and letting myself be seen are some of the scariest and most frightening things I’ve done and that's what my blog is about. View all posts by Michelle

4 responses to “My Parents

  • Jonathan Steele

    Michelle, this is so wonderfully stunning.

    Enviado desde mi iPhone

    > El 24/4/2015, a las 17:21, fallingintofreedom escribió: > > >

  • beadsandbooks

    This was refreshing and reinforcing to read. 🙂

  • rjhbruner

    I appreciate you website very much. I am a 53 year old mom who was caught up in IBLP and for about 3 years, in ATI. I was never comfortable with either. I did enjoy seminars in the 70’s and went several times, even to an advanced seminar. I was blind to so much. The things I soaked in over the years had a negative effect on how I began raising my 5 children. I still live with the guilt of having robbed them of so much happiness. About halfway through raising them, I finally snapped out of my IBLP stupor and tried to capture happiness and true freedom for my kids. However, the guilt still lives in me. Thank you for your courage and please keep on living your freedom for all of us to see.
    Sincerely,
    Becky from Crockett, Texas

  • graceinthemoment

    So much wisdom and true freedom in these statements!

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